The internet age is emotionally validating everyone.The Internet has reasons and validations for every feeling I have and has content for that same feeling everywhere.It has justifications for every emotion which allows us to feel what we want to about that particular emotion. Anger is good and bad,being happy is good and bad,being sad is good and bad.It’s defined every emotion in a way which is relatable to almost 99% of people’s experience of that emotion.The internet in a way is consoling everyone and therefore making people rely on it whenever they find themselves in an emotional crisis so that they find solace in content.It aggravates our self pity.Whenever people start feeling a certain emotion they attract or tend to see similar content which validates and assures that emotion.What they really want is for someone to justify the reasons that’s caused that emotion.The reasons that has caused a particular emotion to arise in us,we as humans tend to sometimes find justifications for those reasons.If someone has committed a mistake but that persons intentions weren’t hurtful,that person finds justifications and tries to defend,because we still haven’t learnt to admit a mistake as it is,we always have a ‘but’.It’s a subconscious play.It does not mean that the content we see is incorrect,it could very well be true but we are programming ourselves to rely on it for validation and to satisfy our reasoning and justify our emotions.Example:suppose we commit a mistake which causes guilt in us.We look up at content which consoles us in a way that if we realise that mistake,it’s fine,don’t be hard on yourself it says.We end up realising the mistake but we usually tend to undermine the causes and effects behind those emotions.We are letting Internet be our doctor.We don’t show our physical wounds to Internet,whenever we have a mental illness,we don’t rely on internet so why do we rely on Internet when it comes to our emotional state…because it’s convenient.Solution:Check that the content you are consuming is exactly what you were feeling or after seeing it you’ve come to slightly alter your reasoning and how you feel about that emotion.Talk to people around you rather than the Internet.Surround yourself with people who tell you the hard truth and not always console you by saying it’s okay,it’ll be fine,you are doing great because that will make that emotional state familiar.Surround yourself with people who when required hit you with the real truth.
Thank you for reading.This is my first blog post and I hope you as a reader find it helpful.I’ll appreciate the support.
Sangram Pawar 